Wham, bam, "thank you" spam
Online etiquette is a fine line. Etiquette in social media is an even finer line still. I've noticed a particularly annoying trend emerge over the past couple of months and I wanted to bring it up to get it out there and get your take on it. It's thank you spam.
I am seeing thank you spam more and more as people connect with me in social networks like Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn. Here's how it plays out on Twitter.
- A person follows you on the service and that sends you an email
- You click on the email and go to their Twitter profile page
- After vetting the person to your satisfaction you follow them back
- Shortly thereafter you receive a direct message from that person with a greeting and link to their site
- This direct message lands in your email and SMS (depending on how you set it up)
- You are summarily annoyed
The reason it is annoying is that I am not asking for the pushy marketing message. I checked their profile, clicked through to their link and followed them. I don't mind people sending direct messages saying hello (though a short reply would suffice and not hit me visa SMS or email), I think it's quite nice. However, the push to a link turns it from a conversation to a sales pitch. This same type of pitch happens to me on Facebook and LinkedIn too. Those people are quickly blocked and/or decoupled.
I try to interact with people online as I would with you in person. The real life example of this type of introduction is when you go to an event, meet someone and they are immediately telling you all about themselves (usually while looking around for the next victim), not listening to a word you are saying.
Just so you can see what I am talking about, take a look at the following direct messages that I've received over the last month+. The images and names have been obscured to protect the individuals. (They know who they are.) Keep in mind, this is the very first contact that I am having with these people on Twitter.




What are your thoughts on this? Am I off base? What are your Twitter/social media etiquette tips?
UPDATE: Loic Lemeur is also seeing this trend.
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